The Art of "Being"
"We all leave this world, the same way we came in: naked and alone". Dazaga Proverb
Hello again and welcome! In this post, I would like to share with you what I believe is the beginning of the journey toward a simpler, richer, happier and more beautiful life. For me, this is when you accept at some point that you have enough: enough possessions, both material and otherwise, and start having a mindset of "being" rather than "having".
I have to admit that I hesitated a bit before putting up the Dazaga- my mother tongue, proverb above. But it is so true, because I think even though we are surronded by family, friends and other people, we are very much alone throughout life, with our own thoughts, history and destiny. Not that alone is a bad thing, quite the opposite. We are born naked and (at least in my culture), burried naked in a pure white cotton sheet facing East. This proverb has a deeper meaning too for me: we come to this world with no material possession and leave it with none, except for maybe a single white sheet. So, why do we spend our whole lives accumulating always more possessions?
When I was a teenager and then a young adult, I was very much drowned to the consumerism ideal of always wanted more. In other words, more meant better. This translated into bigger homes, faster cars, more friends both offline and on social media, activities, lunch appointments, dinner parties, more activities, pictures in a trip... It was always about more, more and more.
As I aged and matured, I actually came to enjoy having fewer things in my life. I know always favour quality over quantity. That includes material things, but also activities and relationships. I used to overpack books, magazines when I traveled and overpacked my schedule with activities of which I would take thousands of pictures I would never look at again. I was around the clock in a doing, having friends, relationships, work to do etc. Isn't amazing how much value is in what we supposedly possess?
I am now in a "being" mode. I accept only things that I deem worth my time and my energy. This gives something extremely valuable: time. At first, I was tempted to use that time and fill it with more stuff, things, activities, in other words be busy. It was not easy to resist the urge. I now use that time I reclaimed back to focus more on things that matters more to me, such as quality time with loved ones, cooking, baking, writing, rituals that keep me centered like praying and of course time to "drink some thoughts" like I my late grandfather taught me (I later learnt that it is called "meditation" in other parts of the world), and anything that makes me genuinely super happy.
Whenever I am considering acquering something new, I always ask myself: does it really worth my time, energy, money and commitment? For example, if it is say a new piece of clothing: do I really need a new jean? How does it add to what I already own? Would it really make a difference in my wardrobe? What is its added value? Another example is about an experience, let us say a travel. Do I really want to take that trip? Am I genuinely happy to do so? If the answer is no or if I hesitate, then I do not commit to it. A third would be invited to go somewhere or do something. If I do not feel like just because, I would thank the person for their invitation (as it is an honor to be invited!), simply say no in a very nice and polite way. I do not have to justify myself or make excuses on why I do not wish to come.
So here are some of my thoughts on the beauty of "being". And you what do you think of the "being" mode v. "having" mode? What are your tips for living with less? If you have not done so yet, do not forget to suscribe so we can walk together the beautiful journey of a simpler, happier and richer life.